i have a pretty decent life. supportive family, good friends, no major problems but i rarely feel genuinely happy. most days i’m just floating, feeling bored or slightly hollow. the tiniest things make me spiral, like messing up something small, feeling like my work isn’t improving or even just getting a weird look from a friend. i’ll immediately assume i’ve done something wrong and start obsessing over how to fix it.
when things like that happen, i feel so overwhelmed and unstable. sometimes, i even get these passive thoughts of wanting to escape everything (i know i’d never act on them but they’re there). it’s frustrating because, logically, i know i don’t have “real” problems, but emotionally, it feels like i’m constantly on edge. why am i like this and how do i fix it?
Hey, I think it’s ok to feel this way even if life seems “fine” as you put it. Emotions don’t always match logic; sometimes that feeling might mean that something deeper needs attention. These small triggers can feel huge when your baseline emotional state is already shaky so maybe just try to be curious and not judgmental when these feelings come up - not so much of a ‘why am i like this?’ but rather a ‘what might these feelings be trying to tell me?’ and focus on your little wins! practising gratitude can definitely help in these situations! it’s good that you’re already reflecting on this, it’s a way forward. be kind to yourself in those moments and don’t be afraid to reach out/talk to someone about how you feel.
thank you for sharing this. it sounds like you’re carrying a lot of emotional weight, even if everything on the surface seems fine. it’s really tough to feel like you have a good life yet still struggle with these feelings of emptiness, instability and self-doubt. just because you don’t have what you might consider “real” problems doesn’t mean your feelings aren’t valid or important.
it sounds like you might be experiencing heightened sensitivity to external triggers, like small mistakes or perceived reactions from others, which can create a cycle of overthinking and self-criticism. this constant state of being on edge is exhausting and overwhelming, and it’s okay to want to understand it and find ways to feel better.
and those passive thoughts about escape? they’re a sign that you’re craving relief, not that you actually want to leave. pay attention to them but don’t let them scare you. they’re just your brain’s way of saying, “Hey, something needs attention.”
have you considered talking to someone like a counsellor? they can help you explore these feelings more deeply and work on strategies to manage that sense of emptiness and the spiraling thoughts. even just learning how to gently challenge those assumptions you make about yourself (like automatically thinking you’ve done something wrong) could bring some relief. if you’d like to talk to someone immediately, you can call our careline at 01548770410 or WhatsApp us at 01130116798 for support. alternatively, you could book a consultation here
you’re already taking a big step by reflecting on this and reaching out for answers. give yourself some grace! your feelings are valid & you deserve support in figuring out what’s going on and how to move forward.
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