Heyy not sure if this is the right space but i just need to let this out.
My gf of 3 years broke up with me last week and now she says she wants to get back tgt. I’m feeling so confused and don’t know what to do.
It started about 2 weeks ago when I noticed she was acting distant; didn’t text as much, wasn’t very excited to see me when we met and was just quiet overall. I did ask her if something was wrong but she said she was just stressed and needed some time to herself. I didn’t push it bcoz I wanted to give her space.
Thennn out of nowhere, she called me one of the nights and said she thinks we should break up. She said she wasn’t feeling sure about things for awhile and needed time to figure herself out. She said it wasn’t about me but just needed time to focus on herself. Like… I was shocked because we were always honest with each other and felt so blindsided by this.
Last night tho she texted me saying she regretted everything and wanted to talk. When we met up, she said sorry and said she made a mistake. Said she was overwhelmed with life, thinking breaking up would make things easier but now realised she doesn’t want to lose me. She promised she’d communicate better and try harder if I give her another chance.
The past week had already been so tough, so many sleepless nights, finding it so hard to function… I love her and I REALLY want to believe her but part of me is scared she’ll do it again. If she was contemplating this for awhile now, why didn’t she talk to me earlier? I keep wondering if she really means it or if she’s just scared of being alone… What should I do? I told her I needed time to think but I’m stuck.
hey, thanks for sharing this. it sounds like such a tough and emotional situation and it makes sense that you’re feeling so confused and stuck right now. breakups are hard enough but having her come back so soon after must be really overwhelming. it’s clear you care deeply about her but it’s also okay to feel hesitant and want to protect yourself after everything.
it’s good that you’re taking time to think instead of rushing into a decision. trust and communication are so important in a relationship & it’s understandable to wonder why she didn’t talk to you earlier if she was feeling unsure. her regret seems genuine but it’s also okay for you to take the time to figure out if her words align with what you need in a relationship.
what would rebuilding trust look like for you? do you feel her actions moving forward will reflect the changes she’s promising? and most importantly, does getting back together feel like the right decision for you—not just for her?
you deserve a relationship that makes you feel secure, valued, and respected.
take your time & don’t be afraid to set boundaries or ask for more clarity if you need it. if you’re still feeling stuck, talking to a trusted friend or even a therapist might help you sort through your feelings. you’ve already been so strong through all of this… give yourself the care and time you need to make the best decision for yourself.
oyy that’s a lot to process and it makes sense you’re feeling stuck. breaku then the whole “let’s get back tgt” thing can mess with your head big time. if you’re not sure, take your time to think about what you need. do you trust her enough to move forward? or does this feel like a temporary fix for her? put yourself first for once man
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