yo I think I have anger issues. I hate admitting it but it’s becoming hard to ignore coz I’ll be snapping at small things then just feel like crap after. I see it’s hurting the ppl around me by the way tehy flinch or just go quiet.
I hate being this way. Most of the time I don’t even know why I’m so tense until I explode. Spoke to a friend about it and realised that I grew up around yelling so it feels…normal but I don’t want this to be my normal… anyone has tips on how to manage your anger issues better? haih
my friend’s the same. she explodes at random, out of nowhere and hates it too; sometimes in public and it’s so embarrassing. i don’t know if she found if anything helped, let me ask her.
hey @rfbp, thank you for being real about this… it takes a lot of self-awareness and honesty to even admit when something’s not sitting right, especially with anger. growing up around yelling makes it completely understandable why it might feel “normal” now, but it’s also really powerful that you’re recognising it and wanting to break that cycle.
that tension building up and then snapping over small things… it sounds like your body’s holding a lot, maybe even more than you realise. dw, it can get better with practice. a few things that might help:
– noticing early signs (like clenching fists, faster breathing, tight jaw) so you can step away or pause before it escalates.
– naming the feeling when it first shows up; even saying “i’m feeling irritated” can create a bit of space.
– journalling can help let some of that pressure out, especially when it feels like too much to hold inside. i’ve heard some people found the mood journal useful; it might be worth a try if you’re open to it.
and when it feels safe, you can speak to a professional about it who can help you unpack the deeper stuff behind the anger. it’s okay to unlearn what hurts and relearn what heals. it’s a good starting point! 